Monday 21 January 2013

CAN EX-LOVERS EVER REMAIN FRIENDS (Concluding part) by IssyB

                                                           





I started this article yesterday when I explained how wonderful having a relationship can be and when it hits the rock bottom and one party is suggesting being friends.

Well, my mama schooled me well so I will first say “hello” to you all and then try and push myself to think out of the box and give you a beautiful write up…

The question remains “Can ex-lovers ever remain friends?” 

Well, most people say yes without even thinking about it but I wanna look from the “no” perspective.

NO:
- No because in every breakup no matter how smooth it seems, one person gets hurt maybe even two and there might be some hidden bitterness and staying friends might just be a practical joke!

- No because if you guys have been sexually involved it might be very hard to stay off. Before you know it, you might just be having friendship sex with no definition of what you both are doing and no direction or map of where it’s headed.

- No because you might get too jealous or pose a threat to anyone else that might be interested in sharing their lives with your ex.

- No because it will be very hard to confide in them. How weird will it be to start discussing your new catch with the old one…? I say #Team awkward

- No because you will be stuck in one place… you won’t be able to move on because you might be building false hopes and mansions on the air.

- No because that bitterness I talked about previously and yeah that jealousy too might just keep increasing.

- No because you know your mutual friend will be rubbing off in your awkwardness.

- No because you are only buying time before resentment shows up wide in your face.

Too many noos Issy whatever happened to believing in miracles??? Well, telling yourself the truth is the miracle. It doesn’t happen all the time… so while you may think you are strong enough to “get over him/her”, it becomes virtually impossible when you constantly have to see your ex… Take a bow, leave and get on with your life… OOOO Issy take your own advice… hehehe see you guys soon… drop your comments too…

Thanks.
IssyB


12 comments:

  1. urubaby21 January 2013 at 10:14

    9ce write up dearie,i totally agrEe wit u on dis one...cheers!!

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  2. IssyB21 January 2013 at 10:23

    Thanks UruBaby! *hugs*

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  3. Anonymous21 January 2013 at 11:45

    Fair argument but I still think pple can stay friends with their ex's, altho it's nt for everybody

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  4. IssyB21 January 2013 at 11:57

    @anon
    Very true but hardly achievable!

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  5. peerless21 January 2013 at 12:27

    Wit d NO's...... I still settle 4 a YES n like @anonymous said, its obviously nt 4 every1. I fink 4 most pipo d sex part is d hardest! Bt serzly 4 me SEX wit an ex is a No!No! Which is like d 3rd base. He won't even get d 1st base again sef! Cos Na big wake-up slap.(I av em as frnds)

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  6. IssyB21 January 2013 at 13:57

    Hehehe peerless!
    Well I totally agree with you guys! But sometimes emotions can take the better part of our brains and make us do things we wouldn't on a regular! I will just settle at individual differences

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  7. Anonymous23 January 2013 at 02:43

    It's totally possible to stay good friends with an ex, though, one must agree with some of ur points. There shud&will be certain limits to what can be discussed, and both parties will respect each other's boundaries&privacy.This is what makes them matured&it doesn't need to be spelt out.It could be turned into a totally harmless situation,even though one has to also agree, it's not for everyone.

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  8. issyB23 January 2013 at 10:58

    Thanks anon!
    Well said

    Between ladi I'm still waiting for you o

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  9. Anonymous24 January 2013 at 02:11

    Great answers, all breakups require a cooling off period where the parties reconcile themselves to their new status, it is only then that they can honestly be friends. Otherwise the friendship can get pretty complicated which can be worse than a bad relationship, with friends that are no limits except to complicate a friendship.

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  10. issyB25 January 2013 at 06:49

    @anoy *ding *ding *ding
    And you win for the best comment!!!
    Very well said

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  11. Anonymous25 January 2013 at 14:57

    Well 4 me, I would say it depends on how d relationship ended buh its not easy or fun to b frnds with ur ex.

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  12. issyB27 January 2013 at 04:07

    Hehehe it could be a whole new kind of fun!! If and only if it learns to work without resentments! But true it all depends on the nature of the breakup.

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